Is the deck stacked against men in marriage?

Men are retreating from marriage in increasing numbers. The warning “Don’t get married” is getting louder, echoed by celebrities like Andrew Tate, who calls marriage a trap, scam, or bad deal for men, and Andrew Wilson, who often focuses on feminism’s role in its decline.

The message that marriage is high risk and low reward resonates with many men because of their personal experiences—how they’ve been treated by women, legal bias, cultural shaming, or stories of loss. These concerns often reflect real issues. But for Christian men, the answer is not to abandon marriage out of fear. We need a renewed vision shaped by Scripture and the gospel.