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Pornography, the Brain, and the Battle for Holiness
“12 percent of all websites were dedicated to pornography.” This statistic barely scratches the surface of our current digital environment. American culture is hyper-sexualized. Sex is no longer just a personal or private reality—it’s become a public currency. It drives advertising, sells entertainment, fuels entire industries, and is now readily accessible at the tap of a screen."
Your Sex Life Isn’t Broken, Your Marital Prayer Life Is
A married couple’s sex life is often broken because corporate prayer is of little interest to them. The importance of prayer in a Christian husband and wife’s life cannot be emphasized enough. A christian couple who goes without frequent corporate prayer is like a soldier who goes into battle without any armor or weapon. Going without mutual prayer in marriage is like saying, “I don’t need to eat food or drink water today.” If fish are meant to swim and that is where they optimally function, then where a human functions the best is when they are in deep relational prayer with Christ; and this is reinforced even more within marriage.
Happy Wife Happy Life
Marriage, simply put, is not supposed to be about one spouses’ happiness. If that is the cornerstone of your marriage, it will crumble, and you’ll be headed for divorce. HWHL lies to the husband that his existence in the marriage is meant soley to make his wife happy. The cornerstone of a healthy marriage is not your wife’s happiness, but Jesus Christ. You cannot make the happiness of your wife your all and effectively adhere to Matt 22:37.
You’re Not That Easy to Love
You are not as patient as you think. Your tolerance for what you deem acceptable is not vast or deep. You give yourself a good grade on your ability to be patient with others, but only because you are looking at yourself through your eyes. You are not experiencing “you” the way others experience you. You are patient so long as you get what you want. You are demanding of others and God. You’re patient with people as a means to an end. Your version of patience is just manipulation. Your impatience when those in your life hold you accountable you lash out and gaslight them. You are not patient because you don’t understand the patience and long suffering that God has with you (2 Peter 3:9)
God is Disappointed in Me
“When she expressed her thoughts on how God feels about her, you could see some momentary relief, but the burden of her beliefs quickly returned because her experiences taught her God was only happy with her when she behaved right. For my client, there was no solution other than to try harder and be better, but it is this very belief that was crushing her.”
Husbands and Wives
Establishing who is God in your individual and marital life can make a big difference in healing for a fractured marriage. God calls us to worship him with our whole being (Deut 6:4-6), how does that impact the way we deal with marital dysfunction and healing. Can healing happen when we worship God first in our lives? These are questions that are important for every christian individual, especially christian marriages to seek and ask.
Teens and Suicide
Teens need their moms and dads practically leading them through their identity formation as well as pointing them to Jesus in times of confusion and angst.