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Pornography, the Brain, and the Battle for Holiness
“12 percent of all websites were dedicated to pornography.” This statistic barely scratches the surface of our current digital environment. American culture is hyper-sexualized. Sex is no longer just a personal or private reality—it’s become a public currency. It drives advertising, sells entertainment, fuels entire industries, and is now readily accessible at the tap of a screen."
Your Sex Life Isn’t Broken, Your Marital Prayer Life Is
A married couple’s sex life is often broken because corporate prayer is of little interest to them. The importance of prayer in a Christian husband and wife’s life cannot be emphasized enough. A christian couple who goes without frequent corporate prayer is like a soldier who goes into battle without any armor or weapon. Going without mutual prayer in marriage is like saying, “I don’t need to eat food or drink water today.” If fish are meant to swim and that is where they optimally function, then where a human functions the best is when they are in deep relational prayer with Christ; and this is reinforced even more within marriage.
You’re Not That Easy to Love
You are not as patient as you think. Your tolerance for what you deem acceptable is not vast or deep. You give yourself a good grade on your ability to be patient with others, but only because you are looking at yourself through your eyes. You are not experiencing “you” the way others experience you. You are patient so long as you get what you want. You are demanding of others and God. You’re patient with people as a means to an end. Your version of patience is just manipulation. Your impatience when those in your life hold you accountable you lash out and gaslight them. You are not patient because you don’t understand the patience and long suffering that God has with you (2 Peter 3:9)
God is Disappointed in Me
“When she expressed her thoughts on how God feels about her, you could see some momentary relief, but the burden of her beliefs quickly returned because her experiences taught her God was only happy with her when she behaved right. For my client, there was no solution other than to try harder and be better, but it is this very belief that was crushing her.”
I Need to Forgive Myself and Love Myself More
Self-Forgivness and Self-Love sound biblical, but are they? As Christians we are not immune from relational hurt, but where should we turn for healing? Do we accept the cultural refrains of “I need to forgive myself” and “I need to love myself more”? We need to examine the power and authority in the forgiveness that Christ has to offer as our theological anthem.
Teens and Suicide
Teens need their moms and dads practically leading them through their identity formation as well as pointing them to Jesus in times of confusion and angst.
Active Forgiveness
“Forgiveness is weakness. This unfortunately is the more dominant understanding of how our culture looks at forgiveness. This is not a virtue that is seen as an admirable or imitable quality. Many people subscribe to the idea that if someone hurts you, you get revenge on them.“